Everyone has felt out of control at some time. They repeat behaviors that got them into trouble in the past, or do things that they know are counter-productive. Deep inside of us are feelings, beliefs and motivations that shape our lives without our even realizing it. The reason is that childhood experiences cast a long shadow. They are processed by a child's developing brain and blueprints laid down that will powerfully affect our future. These blueprints have to do with how we feel about ourselves, what we expect to happen to us in relationship, and even how we view the world. They are unconscious, meaning that that we are not aware of their existence even as they guide our footsteps along familiar emotional paths. The patterns can be healthy, but sometimes they are dysfunctional and lead to depression, anxiety, substance abuse, relationship problems, and unfulfilled potential.

I see my job as midwife to the client's process of psychological change. I create a safe place for clients to examine their lives. As they come to know and understand themselves, self-acceptance grows. At the same time, clients learn how adaptations to difficult experiences from their past have been "wired in" and are influencing their present. However, knowing is not enough. New research reveals a way forward. We have to break up those old patterns and do things differently to rewire our brains. Change really is possible!

Every therapist brings a wide variety of experiences to their practice with clients. In my case, an early interest in science led to a B.Sc. from the University of Toronto and a career in a biochemistry lab. I married and have two children. When I decided to become a psychotherapist, I chose The Centre for Training in Psychotherapy. It has an unusual program in that it emphasizes personal therapy and development in addition to psychodynamic theory. I have spent time in "the other chair" and know what that is like. I graduated in 1997 and have been working with clients ever since. When the practice of psychotherapy was regulated in April 2015, I became a member of the new College and am now a Registered Psychotherapist.

I love being a therapist. It is work that touches on every dimension of human experience: the intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. All are enriched by it.

If you wish to contact me, please call me at 416-221-7034 or 416-968-7637 ext. 1, or email me at dbarman@primus.ca.